I was online today looking into mess that I shouldn't have been. You know why? Because it's SO EASY to attract to negativity. >_<
As we grow into Unicorn Beings, we have to strive for the best energy. Positivity and Vibrations work hand in hand when being a person who wants to radiate greatness.
The world is full of nasty things, nasty people, and nasty energy, but there is a way cleanse yourself from this!
The Law of Attraction Website lines it out perfectly in NINE STEPS!
DON'T EXPECT THEM TO CHANGE:
The only person we can change in this world is ourselves, and the more we try to change people who may not want to change, the more we tire ourselves with the idea that they will be better.
"Toxic people are not motivated by what’s good for them or for their relationship with you—they’re motivated by their own complex problems and needs. When you give up the desire to change them, it’s much easier to let them go."
ESTABLISH AND MAINTAIN BOUNDARIES
I've been a victim of giving too much of myself and my resources to people who sometimes didn't deserve my pixe dust. People will pull and pull at you until you're all out of dust and and just left with tears and heartache from them not reciprocating.
"Give some serious thought to what you will tolerate and what you won’t—from partners, family members, colleagues and friends. When you get a sense that something’s not right in your interactions with someone, run through your mental boundary checklist and enforce these boundaries deliberately and rigidly."
DON'T BE PULLED INTO CRISIS
KEEP YOUR UNICORN TEARS PURE AND STAY AWAY FROM DRAMA!
Drama, gossip and crises is the easiest way into negativity. People will cry the worst things just to get on your soft side. DON'T FOLD FOR IT!
"Toxic people create drama deliberately in order to attract more attention and engage in manipulation, so remember this the next time you’re asked to run to their side. You might feel bad, but remember that you’re not dealing with a genuine person in distress."
FOCUS ON THE SOLUTION
Remember, we are all out here trying to spread the love and positivity of the Unicorn and recruit more! The more you focus on the end goal or the gold at the end of the rainbow, it's very hard to distract you from what's important (Which happens to be that tasty Pixie Dust)
"Toxic people give you a lot to be sad and angry about—but if you focus on this, you’ll stay miserable and frustrated, even if you’re excising such a person from your social circle.Instead, turn your attention to the fact you’re clearing up a psychological and emotional mess in your life. If you spend much your time ruminating on (and trying to understand) a toxic person’s negative behavior, they’ll suck away all your resources even when they’re no longer in your life."
OWN YOUR DIFFICULTIES AND WEAKNESSES
Nobody is perfect, everyone has a weakness and a flaw of some sort. Toxic people will make you feel like your weakness is so bad that it's the reason you are sad or upset or "like them"
Take time to talk to yourself in the mirror and remind yourself of how amazing you are.
"Balance them against your strengths, believe that you are a good person, and commit to self-improvement. That way, it’ll be old news is a toxic person tries to highlight your perceived flaws, and you won’t be easily manipulated by such a tactic."
There have been times where I've received mean text messages from other women that sometimes haunt my memories. Words that weren't true about me and made me doubt myself, destroyed my confidence. But I had to remember, those things don't sound anything like me and maybe they are being said just to truly hurt me! Once I figured that out, I felt a lot better for myself and very bad for the person who sent the messages.
"Part of removing toxic people from your life involves reducing their power over your emotions—and that requires recognizing that they’re not really seeing you when they’re hurting you.
In truth, they’re projecting onto you the parts of themselves they don’t want to acknowledge or accept, so that they can pour all their suppressed self-hatred into attacking you. See their cruel behavior for what it is—a way of avoiding the truth about themselves."
KNOW THEY MAY RESIST
Some negative people never really get the message when you tell them to back off. It fuels them. You can't let their resistance affect the mission at hand, which is living a truly happy and positive life full of pixie dust!
"Toxic people often throw tantrums when they feel ignored, as you’re stopping them from being able to control or manipulate you. They may increase their previous tactics tenfold, but eventually they will back off and look elsewhere to meet their needs.
Don’t give in when their behavior escalates, and instead remind yourself that you’re teaching these people that their old behaviors will no longer work."
CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES CAREFULLY
We can't fix everything around us, so some battles are better left alone. Sometimes we have to be the bigger person. We have to ignore the things that may hurt us or be negative. In turn, we have to remember to still spread love and positivity because that's what Unicorns do!
"On a related note, make sure you choose your battles wisely. Conflict with toxic people requires huge amounts of energy and time—just remember you don’t need to engage in every fight that they might try to instigate. Instead, save that energy for looking after yourself, and for nourishing relationships that are genuinely healthy."
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
The company you keep says a lot about your mental and emotional health. It's so much better to be around individuals who are focused on the solutions in life rather than the downfalls that cause sadness and negativity. Join our Unicorn Squad and meet other people who love to be happy just as much as you do!
"Finally, removing toxic people from your life can be deeply painful, as you may deeply care for some of these people in spite of how difficult it is to have them in your life.
To maintain your resilience and cope with any sadness, stay in close contact with those who make you feel safe, cherished and happy. These are the people who will model healthy friendships and relationships, reminding you exactly why you are choosing to sever toxic ones."
Peace, Love and Happiness