Updated: Jan 31
Sex appeal is something that you feel deep down inside. It’s suggested rather than shown. I’m not as well-stacked as Sophia Loren or Gina Lollobrigida, but there is more to sex appeal than just measurements. I don’t need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain. — Audrey Hepburn
Fact: I am sexy.
Fact: I am appealing.
Fact: I am beautiful.
Fact: I can harness confidence.
I have mastered the art of admiration, entices, elegance, provocation and beauty in just 23 odd years. I’ve had both men and women express just how intriguing I am WITH ALL MY CLOTHES ON, how attractive I am JUST FROM CONVERSATIONS & how commanding my presence is BASED OFF OF MY ATTITUDE. I don’t have double d’s. I don’t have a fata**. I’m not uncomfortably vulgar. Nothing about me is raunchy. Nothing about me is distasteful.
and nothing about me has to be in order for me to be considered “sexy”
I do feel as if every woman and man should tap into their inner Lorem Portal and exercise their capabilities! So, I’m going to help you out.
Talk to yourself.
I compliment myself on every inch of my body AND on every corner of my inner workings. Even when I clearly look like a potato with a toe somedays 🤷🏾♀️😂. I stand in front of the mirror and stare at myself no matter how I look and I speak positive affirmations. Not just “you look pretty” or “your hair looks good today... NAH, b*tch. I’m goin’ all out : “Mimi, you look like a fucking goddess right now.” or “Mimi, your body would KILL as a sculpture in a museum.” or “With this mind, this heart and these legs... impeccable, b*tch.”
sometimes I even light candles and rub myself down in coconut oil and say the same things — but with my eyes closed. that way, not only have i trained my mind to see it, im training my spirit to trust it.
Everyone has their own routine, do what you feel. Somedays you’ll have more to say than others and that’s just fine...❤️
Don’t keep all that goodness locked away! Go out and execute. You’re out with your peopl? Take a million pictures and pose a million different ways. You can’t be sexy and be limited. You’re out by yourself? (btw this is when I peak, not because being out with other people dims my presence, but because so many people expect you to be out with a crowd, so the moment you’re not — it’s like, “hmmm, okay.”)
but I digress.
When you’re out alone, tell yourself how good you look. Eventually, you’ll feel it. Watch who it attracts. Make sure you’re enjoying yourself and your own company. People gravitate towards that energy. Don’t go out seeking adoration from others, go out and affirm yourself. The looks and stares will follow 😉.
Get rid of opinions.
Opinions guide your ego. Your ego questions if youre smart enough, if your skinny enough, if you’re pretty enough, if you’re capable, if your equipt ...etc. YOU CANT HAVE SEX APPEAL AND GIVE A F*CK about opinions. Nine times out of ten they’re coming from someone who has none or from someone who abused the little that they did have (aka a HOE). I wear what I want, how I want and however much of it I want. I can slip into a garbage bag and and give a speech on public defense with a good burger hat on and still have the most sex appeal in the room. Why? Because I’m sure of it before I even NEED the next person to be sure of it.
Know when you’re coming off too strong or when you’re giving too much. You know whats really attractive? Self control. You know what’s just as attractive? Subtlety. Be yourself at all times, but even you know when you should chill out for a second. Too much translates as corny, desperate and insecure. Can you talk to me without adjusting your titties every 3 seconds? Can you ask me a question that doesnt have anything to do with my body? Do you have to insist on buyin me the bar when I only wanted a Long Island? 🙂
Give just enough to keep someones attention AT THAT MOMENT and make them want to continue the interraction afterwards (whether it be a follow up date, a follow on social media, a text/call, etc.)
Master the Gift of Gab.
In my opinion, good conversation is the sexiest thing on the planet. You know how to talk to me? You have opinions? You have ideas? You’re funny? You listen? Whew. Child. — You know how to respond to sarcasm?! 🤯🤤. Understand how intimate words and rythums of the tounge are and work them to the best of your ability. I’m a writer and an artist and an observer and a Virgo, lol. We may not talk a lot but when we do, it’s precise... it’s effective... it’s meaningful. That’s sex appeal! That’s attractive as f*ck!
Hopefully this was of some assistance. Its not an overnight process and it’s different for everyone, but these ground rules are pretty universal.
If you have any other tips (male and females), Comment them below. In the meantime,
Favor, Peace & Blessings,